According to author J. Shep Jeffries, there are seven principles of grief:
- You cannot fix or cure grief.
- There is no one right way to grieve.
- There is no universal timetable for the grief journey.
- Every loss is a multiple loss.
- We grieve old loss while grieving new loss.
- We grieve when a loss has occurred or is threatened.
The things you find when you're Googling "How to cope with the loss of your beloved pug who died while you were at physical therapy."
It happened this week. I was spared from having to make the decision. We were lucky to have him for six years, and all the other things.
Change = Loss = Grief. We grieve old loss while grieving new loss. Yes and yes, Tears while in the chiropractor chair. Tears while walking to a meeting. Oh, here's my heart, it has been through three years of change = loss = grief. There must be something new being made. There are verses about that.
Tonight, when getting into my car, after having moved through the fog of fatigue of late, I spotted this guy walking toward 2nd Avenue in a navy shirt. Even far away, I could tell what was on his shirt. Change = loss = grief. Gentleman in a pug shirt walking toward my car today? Something else.